Positive vs. Negative: say I love you more often

Our days are busy, we get tired and stressed, especially when we have to juggle work, kindergarten, home, cleaning, cooking, cleaning again etc. In those moments, it’s very easy to be negative and forget our positive spirit. In such situations we can sometimes lose our temper…sometimes with your child. Yes, it happened to me once or twice and I felt horrible.

Of course we can apologise afterwards, but let’s try to understand that children are like a sponge. They absorb information very fast. And once the words are out, there is a risk they will be remembered. Also, it is impossible for us to know the ways in which it could affect the LO.

Here are some standard  “negative” and “positive” phrases we should keep in mind, because they will echo into the future, especially in difficult situations.  So, let’s get started…

Instead of saying:

  1. Boys don’t cry
  2. If you don’t listen to me, then you don’t get this or this
  3. We buy so many things for you and spend so much on you, and you …
  4. Don’t mind others, you are the priority
  5. Don’t be stupid or anything involving such words
  6. You will never have friends if you do this or that
  7. You are just like your dad / mom (what does it even mean?)
  8. You will never survive in this world if you keep doing this or this
  9. Stop eating so much otherwise you get fat and lonely
  10. Look at this kid, he/she is doing it so much better than you

Let us focus on positive comments and motivation by saying this:

  1. Our dad/mom is the best in the whole world
  2. If you just do a little more effort, you will surely succeed
  3. It’s ok to cry a bit, you feel better
  4. I’m so happy to have you
  5. Don’t be afraid, I will always be next to you when you need me
  6. I’m so proud of you
  7. It’s ok to make mistakes, just try again
  8. You can make your own decision, I will support you
  9. We love you and we trust in you
  10. Dream and you can make every dream come true

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